Dating is more nuanced than it has ever been before. Right from changes in the dating trends to new terminology associated with dating, there is so much going on in the dating world. So, for starters, you probably know what orbiting or ghosting means, right? But according to the dating app Plenty of Fish, the millennials have invented some other love-words that you probably need to know to survive through your dating life. Well, you probably don’t know what eclipsing or being glamboozled means, but worry not, we’ve got you covered. Here are some dating lingos you need to update yourself with-
Well, the origin of this term comes from a brand of seltzer – White Claw, which doesn’t really get you drunk, but has enough alcohol to get you a little high. Drawing the comparison to your dating life, when you are dating a hot person, but you find them really boring, my friend, you are white clawing! You’re just here to be intoxicated by their gorgeousness, but not to fall hard in love.
Imagine you’re getting all glammed up for your date, which is about to arrive any minute to pick you up. While doing some final touches, you get a text from your date. You get all excited, maybe they are at your door, or maybe it’s just a lovely message from them. But actually, they texted you to cancel the date! Well, that’s a bummer and you’ve just been glamboozled. But not to worry, there are around more than half of singles around the world who have been glamboozled.
When you meet a person you like, you exchange numbers with each other. The real test comes after you’ve exchanged numbers. If the person you’re calling to set up a date with them has repeatedly ignored your calls, you have been officially dial-toned. Well, it’s actually better than receiving the wrong number!
Imagine that you’re all dolled up for a date. Your partner arrives and doesn’t leave you glamboozled. But all through the date, you hear stories about your date, their experiences, their adventures, while they ask nothing about you, your interests and your adventures. All your date does is talk about themselves, just like Kanye. When you’re on a date with a narcissist or a self-obsessed person, you’ve been Kanye’d.
When you are going through the day, searching for love, and your ex pings you up. You get excited and think that maybe your ex deserves another chance. You open up their text and just see them asking you to sign a petition to clean up the beach or to donate to charity! Well, it’s not really an offense to ask someone to donate, but you can’t just text your ex out of the blue for the same. Never cause-play your ex and get their hopes up.
Well, as the term suggests, it means when you shadow your own interests, desires, likes and dislikes to match them up with your date. When on a date, you may tend to cover up your own interests, so that you find some common ground of conversation or to carry on dating them, then you are eclipsing yourself. You’re hiding the real you just for a date. Never. Ever. Eclipse. Yourself.
Well, speaking of interests, you will obviously try to find someone who matches your interests or has the same opinions as you. You take up plenty of surveys, list down your likes and dislikes, and read articles for finding your soulmate. You have every right to do so, but you are actually limiting yourself by type-casting. You shouldn’t make pigeon holes for The One. Always remembers, opposites attract!
The Yellow Card
When you’ve been glamboozled or dial-toned or Kanye’d, you can always call them out for their lack of empathy and manners. If you’ve ever called out someone for their bad dating manners, you’ve given them a yellow card, and you should do that if you feel so. Unfortunately, not many singles have given a yellow card to their unmannered dates.