Relationships are a mixed bag. They are the most fulfilling things in the world, and yet they are the hardest things to maintain and grow. Everyone has such different expectations from relationships and their partners to the point it’s tough. It’s truly a balancing act.
The first week of dating someone can be surreal, but it can lead to more questions later on down the road. Some of the most important questions stem from commitment.
But in order to determine how committed someone is, it’s not always about asking a question straight up. In many cases, it’s having serious conversations about some of the tougher subjects with your partner. It’s understanding what committed means to one another and making sure that it aligns.
One example of commitment to one person can be believing in polygamy or having open relationships. For others it can be being honest about sexual partners and no such much sexual exclusivity.
It’s key that you are clear about those definitions. After all, a difference in what commitment is means that there will be a difference in behaviour. What they’ll accept and refuse in regards to a relationship. This can lead to conflict unless you sit down and have those tougher and uncomfortable conversations.
But once that conversation is had and you’re okay with what’s being said, there are some other distinct signs that you have a committed partner.
The Partner Is Meeting Your Needs
Similar to the Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs, there are specific conditions that people need to meet in order to feel love. These have been dubbed as love language, which is more or less an explanation to the needs people have for affection.
Of course there are other needs that people have, but the key here is that the relationship that committed partners have is enough to satisfy those needs. Whatever the needs are – whether they are sex to financial support – as long as they are met, there is good odds that they will be committed to the relationship.
This avenue is also pretty good in ensuring the relationship remains stable. After all, it’s a matter of asking your partner what they are looking to gain from being with you. Once you know that, it’s a matter of ensuring those needs are met.
They See And Portray You Positively
Those who are committed to relationships are going to be the people who will talk highly about their partner. By no means are they oblivious to the flaws their partner has, but they embrace the positive side and talk more about that than bothering about the negatives.
This can be to the point where some people can become delusional over their partners, but as long as the flaws aren’t any serious concern, they will stay happy in the relationships they have.
Speaking In “We”s
One way that you can tell the difference between someone who is single and one who is in a committed relationship is how they speak. We already mentioned that they’ll highlight a lot of the positive things in their loved one, but one other is the use of the word “we.”
When someone is in a committed relationship they will do anything to slip that word into their responses. Instead of responding with “I”, they will often turn to “we”. For example, instead of saying “I took the dogs on a hike this weekend,” they’ll say “We took the dogs on a hike this weekend.”
You Can Tell They’re Satisfied
This is an obvious sign but it’s true. You can tell whether someone is happy or satisfied with their relationship based on how they look. A smile. More energy. Life in their eyes. When you see these when they’re around someone significant to them, it’s clear they are satisfied.
And being satisfied is a good thing.
They’ll Often Focus More On This Relationship
When people are committed to something, it means they’re going to place more focus on it. This is the case with anything in our lives, but when you see it in the relationships, it a telltale sign they are committed to this.
How you’ll see this commitment is through their effort to grow the relationship. Not only that, but they won’t see much appeal in alternative partners. In fact, most who are committed to relationships won’t notice attractive people around them. Researchers have dubbed this as devaluing alternatives.
They Think The Relationship Is Great
They’re not going to develop some superiority complex or anything, but when they look at other couples, there is going to be a sensation that their relationship is better than others.
They Will Try To Make Sacrifices
One reason relationships are so tough is due to the compromises and sacrifices made. Some people have to swallow their pride and make a few changes in their lives all for the sake of keeping the relationship alive.
These aren’t always massive romantic leaps or anything, but in every case, these sacrifices don’t have expectations of immediate favours in return. In the end, these sacrifices are long-term things and for the short-term dictate what is best for the maintenance of the relationship.
When you have someone doing this, it’s clear that they are committed to the survival of this relationship. And that’s what matters the most.